The parent should be kind to the good performance when child
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On the weekend, father mother is bringing his child severally with a flock of good friends, dine together to restaurant. Just took two course, the children on the desk had run almost, 4 years old static the position that also left oneself, it is he did not follow other little girls to run everywhere only move, come to the side of mom's however. Static it is a quiet child, he at ordinary times not very loves a talk, disposition is very indrawn also. "Static one, much perkier today! " the boast of ground of aunt ceremony sex on the desk static one by one sentence. "I can carry children's song on the back! " static say gladly to the aunt. "Static one back listens to us! " the aunt is funny static together. The back that did not think of Jing Yizhen had the children's song that learns in nursery school, and carried on the back another, mom calls him to stop, he also is not willing to stop. See static one by so much person complimentary, mad the children that run run to carry children's song on the back in succession.
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On Sunday, king aunt comes can the home and mom talk about a thing, mom general can be arranged see cartoon into the house, talked to rise with king aunt next. Just can sit calm, can run, reveal the small tank that father buys for him the day before yesterday to king aunt, small tank of king aunt straight boast " beautiful " , can return approvingly continue to watch TV in the house. Had done not have dichotomy bell, can run again, this, he is the English that will to king aunt read aloud just society, because just learn, his English reads aloud really not standard, pronunciation is quite strange, but king aunt and mom or patient ground listen, mom praised him, the job that wants the mom such as his and king nurse next talks to come out again, can nod entered room. Did not pass how long, can run again, and move a building blocks want king aunt to accompany him to play, in mom check below, he just leaves angrily. But this he did not watch TV into house, however mad in the house ran, be troubled by so that what thing also did not conclude mom and king aunt.
Children have the desire of project oneself, the child with active extroversion is such, the child of gentle and quiet introversion also is such, want organic meeting only, they are met special come out oneself good qualities expression readily, the affirmation that expects others and praise, capture ego is contented feeling with this. In the life that there is the law in children, once appear new person or thing, they " good performance " behavior, can happen again and again more. The child why " good performance " , can father mother understand their act?
The child " good performance " pass the information that come out
Information one: The child's self-awareness is increasing. (Child language: "I but cannot be ignored. " )
As the growth of child age, his self-awareness also is in escalate, one of expressional forms that self-awareness strengthens are the child has very strong self-expression desire. Different age, be in the child in different environment, the form of its self-expression is endless also and identical, for instance, some children can pass the active means project oneself such as the ability that shows his to others, with period the affirmation that obtains others; Some children can fight noisely through be before the person, the inactive means such as the stage that tears open parents causes adult people attention, in order to revolt old people desolate to oneself, achieve the goal that achieves care of old people more thereby. Of course, also have a few children inherent good performance, this and their congenital temperamental type are concerned.
Information 2: The child lacks playmate. (Child language: "Nobody is in the home accompanies me to play. " )
As the home in exclusive, present child can face the reality that nobody join more or less. Although there are old person or baby-sitter in a few families technical company, but this cannot make up for them to be in at all with with age the joy that an amuse oneself can obtain associate, also cannot satisfy them to be opposite with with age companionate the intense longing of an amuse oneself. So, once had,can mix a lot of is the same as age the opportunity that the child contacts, children often can become hysterical, also behave so that love project oneself very much thereby. They are right now good expression just hopes or having game devotedly with the companion.
Information 3: The child lacks expressional opportunity. (Child language: "Or else expression, do not have an opportunity later. " )
Father mother often has a lot of general affairs to want to handle, they always have time inaccessibly static come down to accompany the child, the time that talks with the child repeatedly is very few, prep let alone creates an opportunity technically to let the child was behaved. In the meantime, some pa Mom father too to child check at ordinary times, children are essential cannot the nature with sufficient mischievous project oneself. Accordingly, when the opportunity comes truly, they often are met agitato shows him.
