Ten decryption of confusion when
Sex education experts have pointed out that young children can be divided into stages (0-6 years), childhood stage (7-10 years old) and juvenile stage (11-14 years).
Should be run, the 3-year-old children should have their own clear understanding of gender can be clearly recognized that he was a boy or a girl.
3-7 years of age is an important role in cultivating awareness stage, the children from day-to-day family life further deepen their understanding of gender, sexual awareness of the role. Before the 7-year-old sex education, the role of parents is undoubtedly the most important, the parents of the children of the Enlightenment of sex education teachers. Therefore, when the child can not get help from the parents, it would have the kinds of problems.
Stages of young children (0-6 years old)
Puzzled 1: Xiao-Jun a three-year-old, cute smart look, we are like him. But one day, Xiao-Jun has asked her mother: "Mom Mom, Grandma said that I捡来from the garbage heap, this is true?" Xiao-Jun's mother was embarrassed, he coaxed he said: "You ah , grandmother put it right, that is, from the garbage heap of捡来, after you get married will tell you. "
Lingling confused just 2:5-year-old kindergarten, the day her father back from the kindergarten, it was found that she's depressed. "Daddy, why is the toilet, some children have to stand, we are now squatting? I secretly looked at Xiao-ming, but we seem to grow, this is why ah?" "After you grow up will know why. In addition, after the point to concentrate on the toilet, look at other people's children is not a child. "
Childhood stage (7-10 years old)
Liangliang confused normal 3:8-year-old children and neighbors like graceful playing of "every family." That day, the two play play, Moon on Ting-ting, said: "You are my wife," then pulled Tingting像模像样to the "bridal chamber" has been. Two in bed do not know what to do, Liangliang凑上suddenly kissed a graceful look. Tingting did not expect tears immediately ran out and told Liangliang mother, said she Liangliang bully. A result, going by his mother face a reward.
Confusion 4: fourth-grade Xiaodi often seen on television kiss between men and women gather together. Whenever he can, and when Mom and Dad to watch, as long as the two appeared to embrace the scene, my mother would cover up his eyes, or even just an excuse he支开. He asked his mother why he did, my mother always frighten him: "The next will be very terrible, you read the fear of fear." "But I see a person full time to find fun, ah is not terrible." Xiaodi mind puzzled some.
Juvenile stage (11-14 years old)
5:11 puzzled-year-old Lily unwittingly finds himself and the boys to get along day and night,
Different from the outside of the body. For this reason, live in fear of her and even shy, but dared not ask the parents. Especially in front of male students, she did not dare rise, did not dare look directly at each other, chest did not dare even speak支支吾吾also seems to have done the same亏心事. She secretly used to wear tights,束胸way to cover up the changes in the chest. Sometimes, also deliberately in costumes, hairstyle, speech, behavior, etc., disguised as a "假小子."
Confused 6: Jet on the first day can be a bit recently, he was wrong - like the voice of the original has become clear and vigorous, and when the morning trousers always some things粘乎乎. "I am not sick? Why individuals like-for-like?" With the boys when they talk quietly, Adger said that this meant that the beginning of the development. But what is development? What will change? Adger asked every time when my father, my father always said: "you have is a man, and that time you will understand."
Confused 7: physical education courses Jia suddenly feel uncomfortable, in the help of several female students came to the health room. Jia, after doctors found blood is kept busy, tell her this is the period coming, that this is a normal phenomenon that has bid farewell to her childhood, had grown up. But to see so many of menstruation Jia is very terror and disgust: "This has been bleeding, not to dead?"
Other stage (15-18 years old)
Confusing 8: Yangyang third of girls have found their sense of curiosity, the other boys are also the feeling. So, everyone started to gather around with a comic sexual content and magazines and secretly exchange began to have vague understanding. I heard someone outside one inadvertently selling yellow disk, Yangyang will buy some, but have not found the opportunity to see her mother had been found. Mother not only confiscated discs, but also he had a hard lesson. However, Yang's mind is always thinking of those who have not read the disc.
Confused 9: Iowa inadvertently drawer from their parents found a condom that fun on to look at the school to a friend. It has been suggested as a balloon blowing it found good results. "Anyway, we do not know what use, used to play was blowing pretty good." A lot of students asked to go home after the parents have not condoms, was aware of a scolding. Sharp-eyed students finally found out the toilet in front of vending machines have to sell quickly, which was the male condom were to buy the end of the whole.
Confused 10: high and one of the Eastern and students talked about love, can love two do not know what love should be, between the sexes is very little knowledge. One day, Dongdong kissed, but after the kiss, the two together would be scared, "I'm pregnant so it will not?"worry, "I do not think, I did not know," Dongdong this is uncertain. Since then, worried that she will be the total小洁pregnancy, a physical discomfort, thinking that he is pregnant, carrying the burden of thinking since accomplishments plummeted.
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Faced with the above-mentioned 10 children confused, how should parents react?
Most parents believe that sex education is to tell the children of the sexual intercourse, pregnancy and childbirth, "the truth", that is, to explain and nurture the next generation, as well as the process of sexual feelings. In fact, the so-called "cognitive", should be from the children's personal and others (including their physical body and those of others) to start awareness; that is, from the individual with life, the parents how to hug, touch, care and to stimulate his attitude, as well as how parents relative to each other began.
Parents touch, hug children, as well as intimate contact between the parents, are the most primitive of transitivity information. Once the child can understand the meaning of the others, you can start talking about sex with him.
Children when it is time to ask questions
Psychologist suggested that perhaps the child's body issued the first word has been carried out on an education. Tells her children that their body is a precious gift of God, the penis and the vagina with the other organs in the body and there is no distinction; no matter what size, color, are basically good. This sense of sound, will be able to puberty and adolescence for the future of the right to lay a foundation for knowledge.
Usually four or five-year-old child to not only would be curious about their bodies, others will want to cognitive health. When he saw the body of others and their own time, they will want to know why. As various parts of the body and its functions, should be given a clear explanation, at the same time correct the name of the crown. If in your own growth process, is a cover up of the problem, then you may have to resort to books, newspapers, magazines or the library.
Should be run, the 3-year-old children should have their own clear understanding of gender can be clearly recognized that he was a boy or a girl.
3-7 years of age is an important role in cultivating awareness stage, the children from day-to-day family life further deepen their understanding of gender, sexual awareness of the role. Before the 7-year-old sex education, the role of parents is undoubtedly the most important, the parents of the children of the Enlightenment of sex education teachers. Therefore, when the child can not get help from the parents, it would have the kinds of problems.
Stages of young children (0-6 years old)
Puzzled 1: Xiao-Jun a three-year-old, cute smart look, we are like him. But one day, Xiao-Jun has asked her mother: "Mom Mom, Grandma said that I捡来from the garbage heap, this is true?" Xiao-Jun's mother was embarrassed, he coaxed he said: "You ah , grandmother put it right, that is, from the garbage heap of捡来, after you get married will tell you. "
Lingling confused just 2:5-year-old kindergarten, the day her father back from the kindergarten, it was found that she's depressed. "Daddy, why is the toilet, some children have to stand, we are now squatting? I secretly looked at Xiao-ming, but we seem to grow, this is why ah?" "After you grow up will know why. In addition, after the point to concentrate on the toilet, look at other people's children is not a child. "
Childhood stage (7-10 years old)
Liangliang confused normal 3:8-year-old children and neighbors like graceful playing of "every family." That day, the two play play, Moon on Ting-ting, said: "You are my wife," then pulled Tingting像模像样to the "bridal chamber" has been. Two in bed do not know what to do, Liangliang凑上suddenly kissed a graceful look. Tingting did not expect tears immediately ran out and told Liangliang mother, said she Liangliang bully. A result, going by his mother face a reward.
Confusion 4: fourth-grade Xiaodi often seen on television kiss between men and women gather together. Whenever he can, and when Mom and Dad to watch, as long as the two appeared to embrace the scene, my mother would cover up his eyes, or even just an excuse he支开. He asked his mother why he did, my mother always frighten him: "The next will be very terrible, you read the fear of fear." "But I see a person full time to find fun, ah is not terrible." Xiaodi mind puzzled some.
Juvenile stage (11-14 years old)
5:11 puzzled-year-old Lily unwittingly finds himself and the boys to get along day and night,
Different from the outside of the body. For this reason, live in fear of her and even shy, but dared not ask the parents. Especially in front of male students, she did not dare rise, did not dare look directly at each other, chest did not dare even speak支支吾吾also seems to have done the same亏心事. She secretly used to wear tights,束胸way to cover up the changes in the chest. Sometimes, also deliberately in costumes, hairstyle, speech, behavior, etc., disguised as a "假小子."
Confused 6: Jet on the first day can be a bit recently, he was wrong - like the voice of the original has become clear and vigorous, and when the morning trousers always some things粘乎乎. "I am not sick? Why individuals like-for-like?" With the boys when they talk quietly, Adger said that this meant that the beginning of the development. But what is development? What will change? Adger asked every time when my father, my father always said: "you have is a man, and that time you will understand."
Confused 7: physical education courses Jia suddenly feel uncomfortable, in the help of several female students came to the health room. Jia, after doctors found blood is kept busy, tell her this is the period coming, that this is a normal phenomenon that has bid farewell to her childhood, had grown up. But to see so many of menstruation Jia is very terror and disgust: "This has been bleeding, not to dead?"
Other stage (15-18 years old)
Confusing 8: Yangyang third of girls have found their sense of curiosity, the other boys are also the feeling. So, everyone started to gather around with a comic sexual content and magazines and secretly exchange began to have vague understanding. I heard someone outside one inadvertently selling yellow disk, Yangyang will buy some, but have not found the opportunity to see her mother had been found. Mother not only confiscated discs, but also he had a hard lesson. However, Yang's mind is always thinking of those who have not read the disc.
Confused 9: Iowa inadvertently drawer from their parents found a condom that fun on to look at the school to a friend. It has been suggested as a balloon blowing it found good results. "Anyway, we do not know what use, used to play was blowing pretty good." A lot of students asked to go home after the parents have not condoms, was aware of a scolding. Sharp-eyed students finally found out the toilet in front of vending machines have to sell quickly, which was the male condom were to buy the end of the whole.
Confused 10: high and one of the Eastern and students talked about love, can love two do not know what love should be, between the sexes is very little knowledge. One day, Dongdong kissed, but after the kiss, the two together would be scared, "I'm pregnant so it will not?"worry, "I do not think, I did not know," Dongdong this is uncertain. Since then, worried that she will be the total小洁pregnancy, a physical discomfort, thinking that he is pregnant, carrying the burden of thinking since accomplishments plummeted.
... ...
Faced with the above-mentioned 10 children confused, how should parents react?
Most parents believe that sex education is to tell the children of the sexual intercourse, pregnancy and childbirth, "the truth", that is, to explain and nurture the next generation, as well as the process of sexual feelings. In fact, the so-called "cognitive", should be from the children's personal and others (including their physical body and those of others) to start awareness; that is, from the individual with life, the parents how to hug, touch, care and to stimulate his attitude, as well as how parents relative to each other began.
Parents touch, hug children, as well as intimate contact between the parents, are the most primitive of transitivity information. Once the child can understand the meaning of the others, you can start talking about sex with him.
Children when it is time to ask questions
Psychologist suggested that perhaps the child's body issued the first word has been carried out on an education. Tells her children that their body is a precious gift of God, the penis and the vagina with the other organs in the body and there is no distinction; no matter what size, color, are basically good. This sense of sound, will be able to puberty and adolescence for the future of the right to lay a foundation for knowledge.
Usually four or five-year-old child to not only would be curious about their bodies, others will want to cognitive health. When he saw the body of others and their own time, they will want to know why. As various parts of the body and its functions, should be given a clear explanation, at the same time correct the name of the crown. If in your own growth process, is a cover up of the problem, then you may have to resort to books, newspapers, magazines or the library.
