Why the parent always is dissatisfactory to the child
Character of family education feeling -- ,
Have parent of a student, often say to me the child does a problem how to forbid truly, how doesn't study result make him satisfactory.
At first, I think she is expressing modesty, because of that child although cannot say is special outstanding, also be very academic and aspirant however. But the parent keeps complaining, I understand eventually -- , what she says is one's innermost thoughts and feelings.
Actually, dan Dan (the child's name) ascensive clearly. Strong enter a school when, dan Dan attends class not dare raise one's hand answers a question, her Chinese achievement in class the level goes up in belonging to. Mix as me later the joint efforts of Dan Dan and parent, dan Dan rises gradually somewhat in each respects. To 4 grade last term, her result lives classy unripe standard already firmly. And I see gladly, dan Dan's courage is greater than before, not only attend class to make a speech actively at ordinary times, hook up open class also dares raise one's hand. Only should new teacher came once upon a time attend a lecture, she with respect to anyway not raise one's hand, again simple question also dare not reply.
I say these progress to red red mom to listen, she objects. She thinks the child is not serious, do not hear her word, so the exam cannot get 100 minutes, not be class the first. Although I am able to bear or endure channel of a person's mind she, she still thinks the child returns difference so little. What is that little? It is 100 minutes, it is the first, they resemble an inviting big apple, beck of Xiang Dandan's mom!
Tell the truth, dan Dan already very effort, cannot get cent and the first 100 faults that are not her, after all her brains is inferior to small firm clever, do a problem to be inferior to small more accurate, also unlike is small graceful so audacious... of parenthood, how can you ignore the difference of him child and other child? No matter how the child is outstanding,say again, whole class also has only the first, or two, 3, how is student of impossible also whole class paratactic the first? My missay, actually Dan Dan's mom does not care whole class to have a few the first, she thinks Rangdandande only the first. Hey!
I discover now: Channel parent is more god-given than channel student much. No matter how I persuade her, red red mom says whats do not agree to praise the child. In her memory, the child still is differred far from her target! She says to Dan Dan every day: "Dan Dan you must serious, must not make mistake. You must try hard, you still are not the first... " I understand eventually, already very outstanding Dan Dan why craven and recreant, why overcautious. Red red mom, say sincerely to you: The progress that sees the child, let the child feel your admiration! When you the society uses the child of eye look upon of appreciation, dan Dancai can show beautiful smile.
