How to avoid the disposition flaw of only close child

How to avoid the disposition flaw of child of front courtyard of odd relatives by marriage

Ask: What blemish does the child of front courtyard of odd relatives by marriage form easily on disposition?

Wang Jicheng (professor of institute of psychology of Chinese Academy of Sciences, king of the following abbreviation) : Blemish appears on the child disposition of front courtyard of odd relatives by marriage average performance is two tendency, one kind is self-abased, envious heart is strong; Additionally one kind of tendency is " broken jar is broken fall " psychology, such child disposition often irratable, some is behaved very bloodily even.

Return some children disposition to have dual personality, endure example in the home with respect to obsequious, arrive in the affair puny person use the educational means that gets in the home to others body, behave termagancy is fiercely.

Ask: Are family of odd dear father and front courtyard of relatives by marriage of single close mother affected to child disposition what differs?

: Odd dear father and the education of single close mother to children kind is different, the influence that forms generation to filial disposition is met different. The educational means of odd dear father is punished with severity model be in the majority, the child that so family of odd dear father grows forms irratable disposition easily, easy lead to violent incident. Because the mother often is protected overly,sheet kisses the child that maternal family grows, undue interference, beyond the mark and doting, cause child disposition self-abased, capricious, comfortable stress is poor. This kind of nature also can come into being violent liability sometimes, produce passionate force, but the person is very complex, we also cannot treat as the same.

Ask: A when live together as child of the disaccord in both sides leaving other, what should notice?

: Above all, often should visit the child. Care the child more on the life not only, should notice to be with the child on the thought more, the communication on spirit. Those who leave different family is parental often have so a kind of psychology, felt very long to did not meet with the child, meet to look after children go Mcdonald's, Kendeji. What actually the child needs more is close talk, the child is bigger the more such. Next, in the process that sees the child, most abstain from comment atttacks another. Because this meeting makes the child cannot distinguish right from wrong as a child, or slant listen, the one party in avoid hate parents. And the child that is brought up in the exert a subtle influence on in this kind of environment, can think to there is the real situation between the world. Be in even parents intrigue against each other, what friendly affection is there still between that person and person but character? Such child has violent tendency more easily, and when occurrence force incident, skill often is compared fierce and cruel.

Ask: What does the school teach grown to front courtyard of odd relatives by marriage child to have to affect?

: Close to sheet family grows big child, the school teachs special key. The teacher in the school and classmate should be caressed doubly and care they, do not have any words and deeds that discriminate against them. Notice to protect their self-love heart and the desire to do better even. If Xiaohai's teacher is not to want him to punish a station outside, change kind of means to pull him again however, perhaps won't give the result of nowadays day. Of course, the care also wants measurable. The child of front courtyard of odd relatives by marriage is very sensitive, exorbitant is caressed and exorbitant is cool do not advocate.

Ask: What can the child oneself of front courtyard of odd relatives by marriage do?

: Must self-improvement self-confidence is free-standing, destroy self-abased psychology. Wanting the psychological function that sees a person and psychological standard is about the same, of course this kind of thought won't be initiative in child heart generation, still need the input of the school and society. Nevertheless, the child can learn a few methods to undertake ego psychology adjusts. For instance, often read aloud in the silent in the heart " calm " such word, or write on jotter on " make anger " wait for a word, form suggestion of language of a kind of ego to oneself. There also are a few methods in behavioral respect, if can try the mood,open the mouth when be agitated, the tongue furls suitable hour hand turns 10 rounds, again anticlockwise turn 10 rounds, this intense to alleviating sentiment is very effective. Actually problem of occurrence mental health resembles the person the hard to avoid in lifetime can have have a headache cerebral heat is same, want to realise this is very normal. Major nevertheless mental health problem is longitudinal, can rely on ego adjustment to solve. If feel ego cannot be solved, the psychological teacher that seeks the school looks. Really serious, advisory room seeks the psychology that should reach normal large hospital solve.